I’m convinced that there’s a giant reason for why 50% to 70% of men cheat on their wives and why nearly 60% of first-time marriages end in divorce. This reason, however, seems to be overlooked by so-called specialists and studies. (Although, in their defense, the results were probably manipulated by liberal feminists angry with men for not seeing the beauty in their un-made up faces and Birkenstocks.)
My conclusion is drawn from simple observation of married couples around the country. I believe that it’s almost solely the women’s fault for most normal marriages ending in ruins. (I’d like to take a moment to stress my use of the word normal. I’m not going to blame the woman who’s subject to abuse, or the family torn apart by alcoholism.) Why this harsh point of fingers? I feel that women in this country once they become married, no longer feel the need to take care of themselves.
I’d like to know where the days of women making themselves look presentable to their husbands when they come home from working all day went. Of course, if both the husband and the wife work all day, there’s a perfectly good reason to not look immaculate, but housewives have no excuse. Their husbands have worked a long, stressful day and instead of coming home to a spotless house and their beautiful wife, they end up getting a war-torn home and a haggard spouse.
There’s no reason for it. Childcare has become so much easier in modern times, and taking an hour out of their day to exercise, shower, and apply some make-up is not difficult at all. When the kids are napping, instead of taking a nap yourself, grab the baby monitor and hit the exercise machine at home. Sure, napping reduces headaches and makes you feel relaxed and rejuvenated but exercise does the same thing. It helps move your circulatory system by opening veins and arteries allowing more blood to flow through. This can reduce stress levels and blockades that may be the source of a headache. Exercise, as we all know via Legally Blonde, releases endorphins, which gives the feeling of elation and excitement.
Humans are a very visually oriented race, so it only seems natural for a woman (and even men) to wear the right clothes and apply make-up to enhance their natural features and give the appearance of flawlessness. Women who don’t want to, or don’t feel they have to make themselves beautiful all the time are seriously mistaken. If you’ve somehow convinced yourself that your husband will still love you if you were to dress in old, ratty tees and baggy jeans all the time, then a mental check-up might be in order. Aesthetics enhance a relationship. Dressing well every single day, keeps the spark and flare in your marriage going. He’ll be delighted to guess what outfit you’ve chosen for the day
I don’t have to impress anybody, but I still look good every single day. It gives me more confidence and should I ever get married someday, I can guarantee you that I’ll try my very hardest to look beautiful just for them. Maybe my views are misogynistic, but to be honest, I don’t really give a damn. This epidemic of married women letting themselves go needs to be stopped somehow if we ever want America to return to the moralistic country it was of the past.
I totally agree.
Your statement “husbands have worked a long, stressful day and instead of coming home to a spotless house and their beautiful wife, they end up getting a war-torn home and a haggard spouse.” – really makes sense I should say.
I think these housewives just have to chill and look at the mirror, and think. There’s no single husband I guess who would ignore his wife who made the effort to look beautiful for him… and to spice up theirrelationship.
Thank you for sharing this..
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Some excellent points here. I always told myself that when I get married I will make an agreement with my spouse that we will both always try our hardest to look good for each other. Every aspect of marriage is enhanced by healthy, good-looking bodies and faces. Divorce has increased in recent years, but so has obesity and other health problems…perhaps a correlation? Freud determined that much of our everyday actions are rooted in sexuality. I think it’s pretty obvious to say that a couple that has a good relationship as well as a good *sexual* relationship will be much better off in the long run.
Some might see your article as singling women out, but I see it more as a response to all of the feminist idiocy that states men are the very flaw of society. In this way no, men are not exempt from your thesis.
Great post!
You leave this long winded comment, and when I comment you I’m like “I agree! Lemon’s so epic! Buttsex!”
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I don’t usually have much to say. xD
Eh, I find myself disdaining the way you have bits of this written, but I think we’ll all agree that I can be a little bit feminist myself sometimes, so you’re probably not surprised. xD
Also, I find your last sentence to be a tad melodramatic; relating moralism with the married woman’s appearance is a little bit extreme. And I might even begin to wonder what this “moralistic country of the past” is your talking about? America’s never been a perfect country, and going back to the old fashioned values of the traditional housewife is not going to fix that.
I can see the validity in your argument though, certainly. I think it goes without saying that if the attraction fades the relationship itself runs the risk of fading, and it’s important that BOTH parties work to uphold it. Again, I tend to find your imagery of the man coming home to his little housewife to be incredibly irksome, particularly in this day and age where “housewife” is becoming a rarer and rarer occupation.
Summed up: I see your point on the attraction factor, but don’t think the blame should be placed solely on the woman, as men are equally guilty of “letting themselves go.” I also can’t think of this as the real, solid reason for the increase in divorce rates. It may be a factor, but I think nowadays it’s simply a different mindset as far as marriage is concerned that’s the real culprit. I mean, Vegas chapels and Britney Spears’ 48-hour marriage? Marriage just isn’t taken so seriously anymore.
Harpie, it should be noted that Nicole is not necessarily saying that all women should be housewives, but rather that those that are housewives should take care of themselves, if the man is out there working all day. As for women that work, I would venture they are successful enough to take care of themselves. I guess that’s what makes her argument make sense.
Yes, it does work if we reverse the roles gender-wise too, but as I mentioned in my comment:
“Some might see your article as singling women out, but I see it more as a response to all of the feminist idiocy that states men are the very flaw of society. In this way no, men are not exempt from your thesis.”
Nicole could be more concise in how she decides to propose her thesis, but there is really no pretty way of attacking these issues. It’s counter-intuitive to pretend there is.
Also, your last point is exactly what relates the article with the concept of American morality: the importance of marriage.